Tiny win

Verse 0.0.14 – Take the smallest possible action and complete it

You will have big goals.  But every day you will take the smallest possible action.  And the next one, and the next.

Complete things.

In the grand expanse of all time, and in your finite segment of that, the only thing you experience is the moment. Complete actions in every moment.  Break down larger actions into the smaller, and break them down again.  Tiny steps, each one its own accomplishment.

If you take larger actions you risk not completing them.  This will train you to not complete.

If a larger action is broken down into 1000 tiny actions, and you complete 800 of them and then decide to abandon (or merely modify!) the end goal, you will have 800 wins under your belt.  Each one complete and beautiful.  If you did not, your experience is the one failure, or the never ending loss of endless wandering from one incomplete venture to the next.

The tiny wins align you and focus you in harmony with your environment.  Try to get value from each one.  To find the value, look at how each tiny win changed you.  Even tiny efforts that fail can turn into wins if they are set up as experiments from which you intended to learn.  Your whole life can be a continual series of wins.  This trains you to expect wins, to demand them, to raise your bar.

When you are good at this, ask others in your life to adopt this approach.  There are positive network effects of tribes that are focused in the moment rather than lost in the imaginary or the remembered.  When we are all focused on the tiny win, and we demand this of each other, we are grounded in the real and in the moment.  We are vivacious and active, seeking for that instant action, instant win.  Giving instant wins to our tribe, asking for them in return.  Seeing the same momentary fabric together, developing language to talk about it.  This can move a tribe, family, organization towards being present and positive and fluid with each other.  This moves these groups towards accountability and doing what they say they will do.

Focus on the moment.  Ensure you know what you want from it.  Ensure you get that.  Where you are failing, this is a product of your misunderstanding of reality.  Take the next moment to become more aware.

Laughter

Verse 0.0.13 laughter

We go through times in our lives when we are laughing, often.

Other times we do not.

It is a sin to allow yourself to live life without laughter.

There are, of course, many types of laughter. Cataloging them is not the mission of this church, but there are many ways to learn how to laugh.

Have you ever, in the sexual act, ever burst out with a guttural and deep, irrepressible long laugh? A deep celebration of how improbable what you are experiencing?  Upon an epiphany, have you laughed as a castaway whose boat finally reaches shore, with civilization in sight?

Have you laughed as you once did as a child – full of wonder?  We say – but children don’t understand the world yet, and everything is new.  That is an evasion.  The world remains infinite.  We have learned some things, but understand the same amount of the world as the day we were born, relative to its infinite depth, none at all.  But we gave up the fresh laughter of discovery.

Are you laughing like that?  Often?

If you aren’t you have perhaps not paid enough attention to the sacred curve.

Kindness

Verse 0.0.12 – Perspective should bring kindness

Given that the sacred curve results in death in every case,…

…we are all infected with a terminal illness.

We can treat the other patients with empathy.

Stop acting with unkindness.

Also, given that we have so few moments, and each moment matters – for this is the central truth of the Church of Time.

Therefore everything matters.

“But nothing matters for we are all going to die and vanish into nothingness”.

To say this is to be in denial.  Meet someone who knows they have a year to live and are trying to complete their so-called “bucket list”.

You are also dying.

You don’t have very much time left at all.

Live like those who have realized this about themselves and who are bravely facing it and taking action.

Compromise

Verse 0.0.11 – What happens when we compromise

We have to compromise.

Life gives us imperfect opportunity.  We fail to achieve the full measure of our hopes and dreams.  So we decide to accept something less than we would like, less than our values dictate.

We have to.

But this truth is also an excuse we use.  Often we tell ourselves we were forced to compromise when it was actually our preference.  It was uncomfortable or risky to stay true to our values, our promise, our potential.

Mitigating risk is not a sin.  But also perfect insurance costs so much that you lock in the loss.  So by a compromise that keeps you safe you may experience a worse loss than you were protecting against.

Along the Sacred Curve, compromise is insidious.  The compromise you make today is not insulated from future-you.  It changes the direction of your path and you chart lower, being less alive thereafter.  You miss an opportunity to live more fully, you learn less and will necessarily miss other opportunities in the future.

You get in a habit of choosing to live lower on the Sacred Curve, and your life becomes more banal.  Those who live higher on the curve are less likely to recognize you, to know how to assist you or even relate with you.  You are selecting your milieu of safe people who are fine with not living up to their own promise.

Consider not compromising.  Consider using all your will and creativity to find a way to be true to who you were meant to be.

The very best couple I know do this all the time.  They have lofty goals.  They seem to me to always tell the truth, to others but more importantly to themselves.  And they repeatedly choose to abandon comfortable paths that they can see won’t lead to their lofty goals.  They live, often, in significant discomfort.  They bear the stress of taking risks, of not knowing how they will survive the year.  But they refuse to stay on a path that leads to a place that is not their chosen destiny.

Life is short and the darkness will certainly come  So this is less about the destination.  It is all about how we live each moment.  If you are alive you are working to be as good as you can be.  In the meantime you are seeking the sun to feel it upon the nape of your neck, to feel your muscles carry a load, to smell summer, to caress a cheek, to find a way to create greater kindness than you did yesterday, to struggle with putting a new language first into your head and then into your lips as a natural meter and flow.  To learn all that has been learned about what it is to be human and question where you could be more so.  Each moment it’s own happy emergency, a chance to do these things and more.

Or you no longer achieve.  It’s a reasonable compromise; the degree to which you achieve you will experience discomfort and assume risks and you might lose some or all of what you have, sooner.  You have done enough.  That yearning in you died or is otherwise locked away.  Now you will offer the world no more growth, no more chances taken, and you will rest upon whatever comfort you have found, your sacred curve diminishing towards it’s ultimate axis each day.

Getting Started

Verse 0.0.10 – The journey of a thousand miles begins with this single step

If you want to raise your sacred curve, you want to think big.  You increase your probability of success if you can a) clearly articulate a lofty goal and b) always tell the truth.

If you are having trouble articulating a goal you can start here.  If you feel your goal isn’t sufficiently lofty get started with the less-lofty one you have.

Always telling the truth will be hard if you don’t already.  So find one spot where you aren’t and go tell the truth.  Then find another.  Keep it up.

Note: if people are trying to harm you, you don’t owe them the truth.  If people are trying to dominate you, to aggregate what is yours for their benefit, this is an aggression and a harm and you don’t owe them the truth.

You do owe it to yourself to factor them out of your life.  You can’t live, poisoned.  It’s a habit to break.  And ensuring that you remove yourself from them or vice versa keeps you out of the insidious place of lying constantly to protect yourself.  That’s a slippery slope and incredibly dangerous as a habit.

Perception

Verse 0.0.9 – what we see and feel

Life – its purpose – is fulfillment over time. Fulfillment is something we perceive. We experience it as various levels of contentment, of satisfaction, of pride, of excitement.

We experience an expectation of our future fulfillment in hope, despair, ennui, hunger, fear, resolution.

We look at our previous sacred curve in achievement, in loss. Shame and triumph.

As such we may think we are charting particularly high or low.

But the curve charts on an objective scale. You are in fact for filling your life to its potential or you are not.

Your two ways one may look at this. In the common man are we imagine that more than one choice is possible. That we might make a choice that will result in us being more or less alive. We should behave as if this is true. Although it is not. There’s no ghost at the bottom of who we are. All things are bound by the laws of nature. As such we are deterministic. There’s not much use in believing this particular truth. In fact to believe in the fantasy of free will correlates with greater health and recognizing the truth of determinism correlates with poorer behavior.

I am not a trap

Verse 0.0.8 – The trap of not choosing

I have spoken of the trap of choosing. But to not choose is also a trap. To have no identity, to remain formless, to lack curiosity about who you are, fulfillment may not find you as it can only happen in the concrete.

And fulfillment is an echo of choice.

Do not confuse it with happiness. Happiness may find the person who has chosen nothing. But as such it must be fleeting; anguish may find them as easily and perhaps is more likely.

Fulfillment has to be achieved. It is your measure of you. It is the answer to “have I done the best I could do?”